Yes, we had hard times, but we were strong enough to get to this point where we get married. How does he expect me to believe this story? 5. He then walked off into another room. I have so much respect for you, and for what youve survived! I know EXACTLY what you mean .. that nagging feeling .. it is thegut instinct I keep reading about here .. Thats completely a smack in your face. Some wives have discovered their husbands were cheating after their husband passed away, which is why I wrote How to Forgive Your Husband for Cheating While He Was Alive. My wife is having dilusions that I cheat on her that have got me so upset that I dont know what to do. to all the women on here feeling confused, hurt, betrayed, alone, know I LOVE YOU and understand. 7 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Stopped Calling and Texting, Is Your Husband Using Facebook to Cheat on You? Maybe he didnt. I had three babies asleep in the house. I do recognize that he has been the one who has had to take over all chores like cooking (which he did before), cleaning, laundry, etc. Im not sure where to begin becuase there are so manny points. Its like dealing with a child. But how could I catch him in the lying, if he blocks his phone all the time and it is with him all the time. When your husband is lying about cheating, hell turn away from you and you know hes cheating! Should I have this baby and be stuck with him for the rest of my life or end it with him and the baby. But he makes me coffee and has it ready every morning, leaves me notes on the bathroom mirror and makes sure all of my needs are met. Well my situation continues to spiral downwards. Please raise that precious baby in a healthy environment!!! Id always said, I NEVER in a million years go with a married man! It was WRONG! Interesting note about the truth being encased in a misleading word structure apparently I never f***ing learn to leave his s*** alone, and that if I look Ill find it. Its hard to know if you should confront your husband about lying about cheating, or just accept what he says. Im only 20, his supporting me, I dont have a job because he doesnt want me to have one, Im a stay home pregnant mom. He swears they only had a friendship and is not nor ever was attracted to her sexually. But I want to understand why any guy in the right mind would want to risk having an affair while he wants to work it out with his wife. Ive thought about confronting her, and Ive thought about hiring a private investigator What should I do? Hello, I dont know what to do I have been married 10yrs and it has not always been easy. if not ask your self that question is he realy commited to you ? But I see through him.. Younger than our niece. What is it for you? not even after 1 month i saw him at shoping centre with a women in his car i approached him , u know what he went to park his car from distance not for woman to see what is going on. You didnt do anything wrong. 3. I didnt even recognize that I was severely depressed all those years! Why would he need a picture of this girl, if the already has million pictures of herlself everybody to see? That leads to the day he accidentally autosaved a picture she sent him and I found it. I recently learned he was reaching out to strange women through Facebook. something is fishy.keep a close on him.thats how cheating starts.. Hello, how could I find out that my husband keeps cheating. Its funny how he got angry at me for a simple thing like calling him out on a lie about another woman, and turns around to j***-off on p*rn. I have needs and he is not attempting to satisfy them. the really take note of how exactly many profiles he had out there. It started as normal as can be. She ask me things like should I still talk with or see him, should I tell the other woman to have a real chance with him, she thinks if she knew she would leave and then he could be with who he really loves, and should she see him after he is married? Even if you delete it from the trash. My Husband Cheated On Me (10 Things You Should Do Immediately), The most important thing you need to do after hearing this devastating news is to find out if its, 1: Make Sure Hes Actually Cheating On You, 10: If You Take Your Husband Back, Make Sure Youre Happy, A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Id have to say that motive for infidelity is insecurity and is most commonly as you stated an emotional factor for a woman. You must tell someone. I try my best to forgive this man so when he gets better, when go to a food store and guess what, there girl is there he quikly goes up to her and bumps into her while Im standing there and they both laugh I turn and walk out to leave him there didnt have my cars keys.He comes out asking me what was wrong and when I tell him he calls me a lie. The type of cheating will probably be one-night stands or paid sex because it involves women who he doesn't care about and therefore doesn't feel he has anything to prove to them. No he has a secret password for his phone. I have only stayed because she was GONE the minute I found out. I have tried speaking to my wife about it many times but her attitude is what we did before was the past and what we do now is how it is and deal with it. What do I do now? Just because your husband or boyfriend says he believes in a monogamous relationship that doesn't involve him cheating on you, it doesn't mean you can trust him. There is definitely something or someone who is distracting him; distracting him enough to change his appearance and stop contacting you willfully. May you talk to the right people, read the right books, and connect with the right sources of healing, courage, and strength. There were too many coincidental and odd things that happened in the short space of 4 months when I had cancer. The guys a jerk. While he continues to live here. All of the 5 signs you list, he expressed to the tee we fight about it endlessly, and he refuses to understand how his actions have created in me such insecurity his aggression towards me when i questioned him, his secrecy, his talking to her on the phone while in bed with me, his running from family time to be with her, his constant need to jump to her every tune, his need to pander to her, the way in which he became her pet dog, running around doing menial jobs for her, when in a senior position. He would buy me gifts occasionally but only when I was super upset (a couple times a year I would talk to him about not being happy), never just because he loved me or for birthdays or celebrations. He woukd rather die in his addiction and never set the truth free. I feel I am going crazyAny advise. I also think hes still eyeing other candidates and other woman but hasnt stepped over the line. May you accept your husband and marriage for what it is whether its divorce or working through things as a reunited couple. I pray for wisdom, clarity, insight, and connection with people in person who can help you find and face the truth. I know its embarrassing, but you need to take the proof you r come across and ask a friend or family member to help you tell your husband that he must leave. The sickness and lack of respect and boundaries, that this woman and my husband along with the other ex and God knows who else I dont know about has changed my life forever . I find peace in her response to him when he emailed her and she replied that she thought he couldnt have friends that were girls. My husband and I have 3 kids, the youngest is 2 years old now. Why do you choose men like this? The history of deception is so great. Hes cheating and lying, and he wont change. There are TONS of good men. Both men and women are vulnerable to temptation and mistakesand thats where trust comes in. u said he is drinking probable when he argue with you is becouse he was drunk. I have asked him a few times is he cheating on me, I get your crazy, your insecure, or I love you I married you, but it sure doesnt feel like marriage to me. About a month into our relationship he became more interested infriends and drinking than me. I can tell you this . At first, when I caught him, he dismissed the . AMEN. Not only that i looked at his internet history and it has him searching a bunch of girls trying to find what websites they are on. My kids have also took a back seat.. Thank u very much! i was confussed i decided to take a boyfriend but could not work out everytime the boyfriend phoning me to meet i go and if he touched me i think of my boyfriend and leave i did not do anything with him but was trying becouse of anger. A few hours later I look again and find he had deleted the app. He told me there wasnt a need to do that because he didnt sleep with her. He once was mad at me and told my why dont you just go and have an affair 7. He didnt mention anything to me in the morning or the rest of the day he only said this to me because she was walking toward us and i thought because he was afraid that she might come up and say something to us but instead she walked right my us and just gave me a look which made me think even more that something happened because when your on vacation usually people are very friendly and i would think she would have come up to me and said something like hey i met your husband last night you must be chrissy or something but nothing she just looked at me and walked away. now he blames me for everything that goes wrong in his life,for instance about 2weeks ago he got the windscreen of his brand new car smashed by one of his girlfriends leading to a police case and guess who he blames? So I asked him to take her home to her boyfriend. I was upset that he didnt care enough to check on me and suspect he was up to no good, but let it go when he assured me he was busy. Also, its important to remember that you cant change your husband. Your unborn child deserves to be raised in a normal environment!!! What should I do? One way to start is to casually broach the subject. Whether she is in the car or not you can say what you want to so I thouhgt. I dont know if your husband is lying about cheating, but there certainly hasnt been alot of honesty about what hes doing. Its been quite a while since I commented on here or read anything on here. What do YOU think? And when I confront him, he said its not true and he never sent any of those messages. Hes been very stressed at work. I trust him. Im still having sex with him,I know I should be using condoms..Im cheating. My husband was my heart and all that I every wanted in a man until this happened I still love him but I feel betrayed, deceived. He asked me to be his girl for over a year before I said yes. I hope you two got counseling. Ill keep you in my prayers. Just remember, no one is going to judge you as it wasnt you cheating on a partner youve done absolutely nothing wrong. I belive its due to an old friend he cought up with while i was away. He be littles me constantly which is very hurtful. I now find 2 years later he is gifting money h, car and query taking someone overseas on a business trip, I only saw notes over a couple of weeks but I feel devastated all over again . He didnt tell me all this while until after the phone call. My name is Melissa Ive been with my boyfriend for 15 years I lost my brother and father 2 years ago and me and my boyfriend started to get distant. Otherwise, youre going to have to play detective. My parents think we should stay together. My husband has been having an affair for over a year and a half. My gut keeps saying my husband is unfaithful, but Im just not sure. He comes home in matter of minutes, and Ive been crying my eyes out. Few studies on infidelity have gone beyond exploring demographics, said Robin Milhausen, a professor and sexuality researcher in Guelphs Department of Family Relations and Applied Nutrition who conducted the study with Kristen Mark and Erick Janssen of Indiana University. I am so confused, before we moved in everything was terrific. I saw chat between him and this girl (from the same last duty station country), they try to meet up several times. Signs your relationship is over, plus help deciding how to move on after a breakup. I just dont know what to do or think anymore. But i still see know excuse for him to ask her to kiss him. There are no easy answers when youre getting signs that your husband is cheating and lying about his affair or his Facebook activities, or his relationships with coworkers. Even if caught red handed, they'll continue to lie and minimise. You are the one that counts the most, never let anyone take advantage of you. Hi all, I am with my husband since we were teenagers (17 years now) and married 7 years we have no kids. When the guy fired him he called me to say that he had kicked D and the woman who had been riding with him out of the truck for at least 6 weeks. This man has done nothing but bring me down in the 6 1/2 years weve been together. I am even pregnant, I have unpacked my bags because I cant stand going on a four days vacation with him knowing he just cheated on me. yes he is cheating with your friend .Your instincts are dead on .You need to confront your friend and end the friendship with her as well .If you cant work it out with your husband divorce is a great option .Based on the information you have posted here ,your husband is a serial cheater .Men like to make u think that you are the crazyone but you are intuitive and intelligent enough to see what is going on .It is up to you to love your self ,not lower your standards and find youa good man that will treat you like a queen . Again she said no because she knew we were still together. Ive thought about going on Maury for a lie detector test. While I am aware that some STDs can be dormant for a while, I AM NOT BUYING IT IN. Nancy, your Husband is cheating with the young lady. He said she bought a car from him and the car broke down. The women men cheat with are not better looking, younger, or skinnier than their wives. Hi Allison- I was so sad to read your message. A year ago my husband received an email from a female worker with a bikini picture attached. I asked to see the text and he deleted them. Laurie, youre quite sharp. It ended up being more like his therapy sessions. Tells me as a VOLUNTEER FIREMAN & EMT, needs to respond to calls. The guys are playing poker more frequently and I have learned recently that it is not always just guys that play there is the wife of one of the guys and on e of her friends. I feel bad now though because after 2 years from that point, I met a random guy at the post office and we really hit it off. i dont get how guys can be so messed up. They had communicated a couple of times because shes a drama queen and needed to make a production about telling him she was getting married and when she got pregnant. He doesnt text me when hes up or going to bed. I have been dating someone for 7 months. I only know the brother and a couple other sisters of his. Why does a girl writes to you that she is missing you by sending a picture of her drinking and partying. Sometimes we get sick along with our sick partners and its hard to see the truth. Your well-being is not dependent on this man, nor should it to be. Am so heart broken, our marriage is not even up to a year. I can say that though I do not know him, some times in every marraige it has its ups and downs. Yet he was earning nothing, in fact it was costing him to go to the office every day, money we didnt have, with a brand new baby to care for and yet as far as he is concerned, it is my fault. Not much room for talking or any kind of intimacy! When I asked why there were none for me he said it was because we are married and I am home everyday. Staying with a cheater continues this feeling since they already decided to fill a void that you, purportedly could not fill and you will continually wonder if and when it will happen again. ! ( my babys dad has no ball) andi saw another he dated this woman when we are already together. Yet, other times he gets angry, cussed at me, tells me I need mental help and that Im crazy for accusing him. Im hurt like no other knowing my love of my life has done this to me. If your spouse is clever . He also has his friends sent him womens number, none of which I found on his call history. 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